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If You Can’t Be Kind, Be Quiet

I recently taught at church about how to treat fellow believers when we disagree politically. Christians who differ on such issues should always do so with a spirit of kindness, graciousness, and understanding. Indeed, this spirit honors King Jesus.

I know a little bit about conflict. Like everyone else, I’ve had my fair share of personal skirmishes with my wife, kids, family, co-workers, teammates, etc.  Additionally, for the past 33 years, I have been called in to help hundreds of other people resolve their broken relationships. In fact, just this past week, I had the opportunity to help resolve a dispute between two dear friends. Fortunately, humility carried the day, and all was well.

My top “pro tip” for resolving conflict? Stop it before it starts. Without a doubt, the best way to do that is to be preemptive and wise in your actions, thoughts, and words. Simply put, don’t put yourself in a situation that will ultimately lead to conflict.

But what do we do when we disagree politically with someone in our church? Unfortunately, many people resort to anger or mean social media posts. Along with that, they become passive-aggressive or simply avoid each other altogether. There is undoubtedly a better way for Christians. When we disagree, we should always prioritize our relationship over politics. 

What’s Your Attitude?

The Bible absolutely tells us what to do. Our attitude toward Christians who don’t believe the way we do in non-essential issues (like politics) should be loving, kind, and patient. Equally important, it should be gentle, grace-filled, and long-suffering. Does this come near to describing your political social media posts?

God’s Word calls Christians to a higher standard. He instructs us in Ephesians 4:29 (NIV84): “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”

It’s never okay to slander or judge your fellow brothers or sisters because of differing political beliefs. So rather than flame them online, why not simply be kind and listen? At the same time, humbly acknowledge that maybe you don’t have ultimate, complete, and supreme knowledge of all things political. In fact, you could be … wrong.

Are you tempted to say (or post) something mean or nasty (regarding your political convictions)? Before you do, remember this wise advice: “If you can’t be kind, be quiet.”

Practicing kindness,

Bill

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Look Ahead!

I’ve always had a passion for all things boards. From the freedom of skateboarding through city parks to carving fresh powder on snow-capped mountains. Not to mention the rhythm of surfing ocean waves. Without a doubt, it’s a thrill like no other. I love feeling the wind rushing against my face. Strangely, times like this are also when I find myself in deep prayer. Yes, you read that right; I absolutely connect with God profoundly while gliding on a board!

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Pray About Everything

The right response is to pray about everything. Perhaps you feel like you’re in an uphill battle. Are you distraught, downtrodden, sick, bankrupt, or confused? Oftentimes, life can be utterly brutal. And yet, in the same life, we can also experience the downhill thrill of blessings. Being in love, landing the perfect job, receiving gifts, learning new skills, having children, going on vacation, hearing, tasting, and so on.

In all our ups and downs, the Apostle Paul encourages us to assume the position of prayer.

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Better

I meet people all the time who are looking for something better. I often cringe when a new visitor at our church will “go off” about another church they’ve visited. For instance, they complain about the pastor having green teeth (or something like that). If the opportunity presents itself (and I often try to make it present itself), I recommend they talk to that pastor about the green teeth situation. They certainly need to work it out.   

Let’s face it, looking down on others (and belittling them) is an easy trap to fall into. It’s like stepping in dog doo-doo without realizing it. Maybe it’s human nature to want to make ourselves look better by making others look bad. Admittedly, I catch myself doing it all the time. This behavior usually manifests itself into gossip. We think people should be all put together, like us — ha!

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Chosen

In Numbers 16, we read about some men who rebelled against Moses and Aaron. They were angry and envious of Moses and Aaron’s position among the congregation of Israel. Also, they assumed that Moses and Aaron were making themselves out to be more holy than the rest of Israel. Along with that, these rebels wanted to be recognized as great men, also. However, instead of humbly going to the Lord about their thoughts, they grumbled and rebelled.

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Pathway to Joy

“Pride leads to disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom.” — Proverbs 11:2

“For pride is spiritual cancer: it eats up the very possibility of love, or contentment, or even common sense.” -Timothy Keller

The dictionary defines pride as “a high or inordinate opinion of one’s own dignity, importance, merit, or superiority, whether as cherished in the mind or as displayed in conduct, etc.”

Pride is thinking only of yourself all the time. It bolsters attitudes and thoughts like: you “can’t be wrong” or you “have to be the best.” Inversely, pride rears its head when you think you are “always wrong” and “not good at anything.” In either scenario, your eyes are only on yourself.

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Humility

“Before destruction a man’s heart is haughty, but humility comes before honor.” — Proverbs 18:12

“For Pride is spiritual cancer: it eats up the very possibility of love, or contentment, or even common sense.” -Timothy Keller

Christian, when we walk in humility, we are within the circle of God’s blessing. The world tells us we need more power, money, fame, position, and praise. It tells us we need more of…everything!

The Bible, however, calls a person like that a leech: the world is a leech!

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